He's Betraying Me - Now What?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month now. And just today I found out he has been cheating on me with another girl. But for some reason I just don't want to break up with him because part of me says that its not true and he really likes me.
I just dunno what to do...should I break-up with him or keep going out with him and see what he does?
The MOST important thing in any relationship is honesty and trust. He hasn't even lasted a month with you and he is already betraying you. That is NOT GOOD. It means that pretty much you can't trust him when he does anything - how will you know that he's not lying to you again about whatever he says he's doing?
If you REALLY want to stay with him then sit down and confront him, get him to take responsiblity for what he's done and understand why it was such a harsh betrayal of your trust. If he really understands, then you have a chance. But if his attitude is "I'll do what I want to do and I don't care if it hurts you" and he figures he'll just keep lying to you then DITCH him immediately. The amount of pain he could cause you in the future is staggering.
Get some advice on breaking up just in case -
it sounds like he's not a keeper.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com