I Hang Up on Him - I Want Him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
A guy was not responding in returning my phone calls. I didn't call him for a while and contacted him again. He was happy to hear from me and apologised for not calling me saying if I was in his position i could have understood him. I know he is very busy. He was busy at the time and told me he will call me after 15 minutes and he did. We had a very good conversation and told me that he understands that I am bored as I still do not work and don't have friends who can understand me. He asked me if I would like to go for a trip with him and his friends. I wasn't sure so he told me he will call me the next day to give me details. He didn't call me.
I was also curious to know his relationship with the other girl who was also going with him in this trip. I called him to ask him that I heard that the girl is his girlfriend and that she might not like me to join them . He said she is just his good friend and that the girl knows me and talks highly about me. I know the girl a bit from friends. He was busy at the time and told me we will talk later.
I didn't hear from him on the day of the trip, and decided to send him a message asking him what's wrong and how about the promise. He didn't reply my message. Later I called him he didn't pick the phone and he saw it's my number . I called 3 hours later and a girl answered. I hanged up. I sent him another message the same time telling him it's a nice surprise and that he should have a nice time.
I felt he may want me to get jealous and start chasing him. He acts he is not easy to get. I didn't call him to ask who the girl was. I'm sure he likes me and we really have good conversation. I don't want to disturb him , i know he is busy but I would like our friendship to go on.
What should I do? I want to have a serious relationship.
Wait, you're hanging up on calls and relying on text messages and you want a serious relationship?? Serious relationships aren't based on text messages and on people hanging up on people. They are based on real, face-to-face conversations and honesty. So stop playing games with this guy. GO to him and talk to him. Don't play these games. Tell him how you feel and deal with him in person. Playing these phone games of "who will answer" and "who will pick up" are for 3rd graders. If you are serious about dating him then you will start actually BEING where he is and TALKING to him like a real person!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com