Jealous of my Ex
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Ok my ex-boyfriend and me dated for a year and than i broke up with him b/c we always fought not like hitting just yelling all the time and i could not deal with it.
Well 4 days after i stared dating this guy - I have known him since 6th grade he has been there for me always no matter what what it was. now we have been dating for 2 months and i do love him very much and i would never leave him but finaly my ex got a girlfriend and i feel jealous a little not much but just enough to get to me im over him i just dont know y im feeling this way. And he use to flirt with her when we dated. so it really ticks me off for just he used to say he hated her.
If he was yelling at you all the time then it is VERY good you got rid of him. Nobody should EVER put up with someone yelling at them. But I know it's hard to think of your ex being happy with someone else. It's tough to think that you put up with the pain and agony for months and that now your guy just wanders along and is happy and peaceful with someone else.
But what you have to realize is that your ex has NOT changed. He is still the same jerk he always was. And while he might be sweet-talking someone else right now, it isn't going to last long - soon he will be his normal, yelling self and his "new" girl friend is going to be miserable when she realizes just what she's gotten herself into.
Don't get yourself wound up about the "glorious happiness" your ex is in now. He is in a dream world. Soon enough he is going to make her unhappy too. Be VERY happy you are rid of him and look at finding yourself someone who is truly worthy of your love. Believe me, you'll find him, and you'l be very happy that you are rid of someone who was abusing you.
-- from Jenn
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