We Break Up and Get Together Again
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Whenever am around my partner i can stand her sometimes. I see her face Everday and now i want some room. but than again if i break up with her i would feel guilty, and also still have alittle feelings.
What do i say so the relationship works out or both of us agreeing to the break up?
A relationship is about two people who are 100% committed to each other, to making things work. If you guys are willing to call it quits over minor disagreements, it just isn't going to work. It means you aren't really serious about each other. You feel lonely when you are apart and get back together because it's "easy" but if you keep breaking up again, you really aren't getting together because you want each other. You just do it because you don't want to be alone.
Either you two make a serious commitment to each other to *work out issues*, or you might as well admit that it's just not going to work. The more you break up, the more you set a pattern that "in case of trouble I'm going to run away". Nobody wants to rely on someone who is known to run away when things get tough. So make a decision now. Either you decide that you WILL work on all issues and NOT break up, or you decide that you just don't have that ability to handle the relationship with your partner right now.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com