Spending Time Together
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months now and we are starting to have problems. I just recently found out that his ex is pregnant and there is a possibility that it could be his or 3 other guys child.
The big problem lately is communication. He is a very shy guy and doesnt always like to talk. Alot of times there is just silence. We both have admitted that we are really into each other and we want to be together but I am just not sure what to do. During the week we dont see much of each other and all of my past relationships I have spent alot of time with my partner. This makes me feel like he doesnt like me or want me around but I know thats not the case.
What should I do???
The ex is an ex. If she is having his child then he should support her financially, but he should have been using protection if he didn't intend to have a kid. So that is something that he will just have to deal with.
As far as you and he are concerned, you need to talk. Talking is THE most important thing you can possibly do in a relationship. Yes, he's shy! We're all shy about some issues. Your partner in life is someone you can share anything with. That includes feeling neglected.
So sit down with him - I have advice on how to talk through issues here -
and discuss it. There should be a balance between his work schedule and your together schedule that you both can live with.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com