I Really Like my Female Friend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Ok, there is this girl who I have become best friends with and she said that she loves me a friend sort of way - if that makes any sense? She is also flirting quite alot,
I really do like her but she has a boyfriend. She is a good friend but I do wish that they would break up. Anyway, any advice would be great.
It's very, very common to fall in love with a female friend. That is the BEST way to end up with a girlfriend, to have a female friend who you really trust and can talk with. But if she has a boyfriend already, then this is a BAD IDEA.
If you "force" her to break up then she will always blame you for breaking her up and forcing her to be with you. This is a sure way to destroy your relationship even if it was going to be a good one. So instead, be her friend, be there for her. Show her you are a reliable, trustworthy friend. let HER choose what to do with her life, and to choose you. But do NOT push her into choosing you.
I have tips for going from friend to lover here -
but go slowly. Do not rush and let her make the steps work.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com