I Want a Beautiful Woman
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have an issue concerning beautiful women, particularly those who are physically beautiful. It's like everytime i see them, be it on the bus or at work or anywhere, as soon as i lay eyes on them, i get this kind of weakness, thisprofound feeling of being awestuck. So much such that, i feel very shy and uncomfortable around them, not in a bad way, but like a weak way.
However, when it's women i don't find attractive, that feeling is non existant.I feel more comfortable around them, and if they give me positive attention be it a hi or a smile, it doesn't feel as nice as when it's a pretty girl.I know about the whole the beauty is skin deep thing, but what want to know is why i have those feeling around pretty girls and what do you suggest that i do to overcome them.
By the way i'm 21, and have never had a girlfriend. could this play a role?Thank you in advance.
It sounds very much like you have been overcome by the MTV sickness. You believe that MTV-model idols are the worthy women who are worthy of caring for, but the 'boring normal women' are OK to talk to as friends and not get emotionally interested in. So you lust after those Gorgeous Girls but won't talk to them because it's scary. You happily talk to the Normal Women because they're not of interest to you - they're not beeeuuuutiful.
Why are you so obsessed about finding ways to talk to the beautiful girls when you obviously have regular women that enjoy talking to you? It's pretty clear why you don't haven't had a girlfriend - you are refusing to date anyone that you like because of their body shape!! And what happens in 10 years when ALL women start to sag and wrinkle? Are you going to ditch your 'model' girlfriend because she's no longer of model quality and move on to a new one?
You need to rearrange your priorities. Beauty is meaningless. If all you care about and get excited about is beauty, you are going to live a very lonely life. You need to get excited about a PERSON being a great person for you - someone who cares for you, shares your interests, supports your hopes and dreams. That is what survives the years and makes a great wife.
If you date someone for Great Breasts, you're going to be rather miserable in a few years when those breasts sag and all you are left with is a woman who you don't like in any other way.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com