What should I do?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
About a month ago, my boyfriend and I were texting every single day and we kept telling each other about how much we love each other (he loves me like A LOT. A lot of people told me that he looks at me with love in his eyes, even a random stranger. And of course, I'm head over heels for him) and how we're gonna miss each other like crazy this school year (he's a grade higher than I am and going to high school) and we were both really happy to hear from each other and stuff. We never had any big fights. I even think we never fought at all.
One day, I texted him and he didn't reply. I figured he was busy or something cuz it happened a few times before when he would have to study or when he was with his friends, but he would always text me something random within 2 days.
This time, I had to wait five days, which is not even bad because he's busy with a mandatory activity, but then after that whenever I texted him he would never reply and to this day still doesn't reply. I felt many things, mostly sadness and a little anger and worry. I called him like maybe twice which is a lot for me cuz I never call anyone at all if I can avoid it.
Oh and a few days ago my friend called him and he actually answered.... This just came out of nowhere and I know that if he wanted to break up with me he would have just told me instead of avoiding me cuz we're gonna see each other eventually. I don't really know what to do because for me it just doesn't make sense why he's doing it and I think that he couldn't just have randomly decided to stop texting me because he doesn't like me anymore overnight. Sometimes I start to think that maybe someone close to him (like really close) is like maybe the reason because they were the most shocked when we started going out. Please help me on what to do or just something that will help!!!!
It sounds like he needs a break and is not mature enough to know how to ask for one. So he is getting his 'space' by just not returning your texts or calls. I know that can be frustrating! Try to call or text less so he can get what he needs. Eventually he will start trying to get your attention.
-- from Jill
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