Being In Love
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I just recently statrd daeing this guy, he's everything i ever wanted n a man. I just dont know if he loves me back. I tell him i love him and he says "yeah i know you do". He isn't from PA like me he's from Flordi but he wants me to move to Flordia with him when i am old enough. What should i do?? Stay with him and loveing him is all i am doing right now, but i want more out of the realationship then i'mnot sure weaher he really wants the same . like marriage and a family . SO i am hopeing you can give me some advice.
First, you've just started dating him. So you really don't know yet if he IS everything you've wanted. You're in the 'infatuation' stage of the relationship, so you tend to see the great parts and ignore the bad parts. Believe me, NOBODY is perfect and if you try to convince yourself that he is, you're going to be in for unhappiness later on. He may be great, but you have to open your eyes and accept all of him. True love is about being with someone for months and months, seeing their BAD sides, and accepting them anyway.
It sounds like that's the point of view he's taking. He's not saying he loves you yet, because it's too soon. You can feel strongly for each other - sure! That's very normal. But that's not really love yet. At least not how most people define love. You have to give the relationship time to develop, to really find out what each other is like, all the way down on the inside. That's not something you find out in a month or two, it takes quite a long while before you reveal that much of yourself to each other.
By that time, you'll know if you really are right to be married. Marriage is *forever* which is a long, long time. If you can last together for a year or two, you'll probably last together in marriage. But a few months isn't long enough to tell.
Take it slowly and see how it goes!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com