he has issues to work through
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My ex and I were together for two and a half years. Our feelings for each other grew more and more each day and we told each other EVERYTHING. About a year and ten months or so after we got together, his parents started fighting a lot and I kept telling him everything was going to be okay, but then two or three months later,his parents got divorced. He changed a little bit at first,but then he was back to normal. Well his mom found a different guy and his dad moved to a town about thirty minutes away. He still seemed to be okay and we spent a ton of time together. His mom and her new boyfriend are both big on acting, so my ex and I were helping with the concession stand for one of their shows. before the show started, He proposed to her and she said yes. The first thing I did was check to see if my then boyfriend was okay,but he started to shut me out. We texted everyday for almost all day and I said everything I could think of to make him feel better, but ever since the proposal,he hadn't really said much. About a month after his mother got engaged,I went on a two day vacation and he broke up with me. He said he was making me miserable and that was making him miserable and he wanted me to be happy,but he didn't think he could do that. So after two and a half year of being in a relationship, he broke up with me in a text. I really want him back. It's only been two days,but I can't take it anymore. I miss him so much and can't help the tears. I still love him,and the letters,cards,presents,pictures,and necklace that I can't seem to be without,make me miss and love him even more. He told my best friend that he probably made the biggest mistake of his life right after he broke up with me,but he hasn't showed me he wants me back yet. I have no idea what to do! Please help! And thank you! (sorry, it's rather long...)
It sounds like your guy has a lot of baggage he needs to work through. I would tell him you understand he has a lot of swirling emotions right now, and to take his time and work them out. Tell him you care about him and support him, and that you will be there if he wants someone to talk to.
He might realize his anguish is not about you, and is due to his family issues, and then call you up. It might be months later. It might also never happen - you need to be prepared for that - but honestly, to me it sounds like he cares for you very much and is just an emotional wreck about other things. Hang in there!
-- from Jill
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