Girlfriend in Serious Trouble
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
to start, i am male. i have known her for 10 years, and things for us have slowly ruined our lives together. she's under 18 and so relies on family still. her parents got divorced, her mom (who got custody) lost her job, they slowly suffered weeks with nothing but the actual home. now that is gone too, and she is several hundred miles away. the only people (besides me) that gave a **** about her just started hating her, and one of them is suing her. she keeps discovering terrible things she didn't know she was part of.
she broke up with me then. the last things she said where "i don't believe in love anymore" and she felt like i deserved better, and things that suggested she wasn't worth ****. i keep telling her "to me, your perfect" she's in a very dark time in her life, but i need her in my life. this is the realist love gets.
i'm not even that sad about breaking up, because it's not about that anymore, it's all about her. and i nothing is more important than her happiness, so if i can't give it to her, breaking up maybe best. but i can't just stop loving her, and i don't want to. what do i do? i'm lost.
You are doing an admirable job of handling the situation and trying to be there for her. Given everything she's trying to handle it sounds like she's quite depressed and it's affecting every aspect of her life.
I would strive to get her talking to someone - a minister, a therapist, a priest, whoever is in the area and who can help her. She needs to get someone to help her through what she's in. Once she gets more strongly on her feet, then she will probably be ready again for a relationship. But right now it sounds like she needs more serious help than that.
-- from Lisa
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