Major Mixed Messages...what should I do?Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been very close friends with this woman, we can call her M, for over two years. I know she is bisexual so I know she is into woman and up until meeting and developing a relationship with her, I thought I was straight. I know now I have major feelings for her but she sends a lot of mixed messages. She is single as well and we spend a lot of time together, and very much enjoy each others company. We are both touchy feely, so she touches me a lot, and sometimes I shy away which I *KNOW* sends the wrong message to her. I am working on trying not to pull away when this is something I want. She sends mixed messages though, we have been in the hot tub together many times, both a little tipsy, and the looks are scorching, the tension is high, she touches me but then says, "now dont get freaky" and laughs. I care so much about her but am terrified of losing her friendship. Sometimes I don't know whether she is just being her flirty self or if she really does care for me the way I care for her. I am terrified to bring it up and scared silly that I will say the wrong thing. What should I say? What should I do? Help?
If you're sure she's bisexual, and you're also sure you'd like to have a relationship with her, then you should let her know. She may be as terrified of losing your friendship as you are of losing hers. The hot tub sounds like a good place for a heart to heart talk. Good Luck.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!
All Advice in the category - Flirting and Friendship
Browse our Answer Database- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response
Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.