Major Mixed Messages...what should I do?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been very close friends with this woman, we can call her M, for over two years. I know she is bisexual so I know she is into woman and up until meeting and developing a relationship with her, I thought I was straight. I know now I have major feelings for her but she sends a lot of mixed messages. She is single as well and we spend a lot of time together, and very much enjoy each others company. We are both touchy feely, so she touches me a lot, and sometimes I shy away which I *KNOW* sends the wrong message to her. I am working on trying not to pull away when this is something I want. She sends mixed messages though, we have been in the hot tub together many times, both a little tipsy, and the looks are scorching, the tension is high, she touches me but then says, "now dont get freaky" and laughs. I care so much about her but am terrified of losing her friendship. Sometimes I don't know whether she is just being her flirty self or if she really does care for me the way I care for her. I am terrified to bring it up and scared silly that I will say the wrong thing. What should I say? What should I do? Help?
If you're sure she's bisexual, and you're also sure you'd like to have a relationship with her, then you should let her know. She may be as terrified of losing your friendship as you are of losing hers. The hot tub sounds like a good place for a heart to heart talk. Good Luck.
-- from Jill
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