What do I do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i have a question. I cheated on my x the 1st couple of days we went out and i didnt tell her for awhile when i did tell her we stayed together and yes she was hurt but i never did anything like it again. then after a few months i started to get aggravated and we broke up and i slept with the girl i cheated on her with. and we got back together and we were fine for 3 months and there was no signs of her thinking about the past and i wasnt talking to that girl every again and still havnt. she broke up with me and im devastated! we were fine Tuesday and weds. Thursday she hung out with a friend that was leaving for the air force. he doesnt like me and tells her to be single and brake up with me. the next monday she did. he left that day. she didnt cheat. she just says shes confused and now we talk everyday its been a lil over a week. she says she loves me and she does wanna get back together bc if she says no than im gone and she doesnt wanna loose me. but she wont give me and answer. i dont know if she wants to say no and doesnt wanna hurt me more of is it bc of the guy. should i wait? or move on?
I would move on. I think you two have too much history and baggage to work things out without a lot of hard feelings and recriminations. Start fresh with a new love, do not do any cheating going forward, and hopefully you will find your past experiences have given you the experience for a great future with someone special.
-- from Jill
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