What Are His Intentions after 7 Years?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i had a 5 month relationship 7 years ago, i ended the relationship because i didn't trust him. 4 years later he phoned out of the blue we then started seeing eachother. he never actually told me of his feeling towards me but when asked he used 2 say things like of course i like u but didn't say very much.
just as i was about to move out of my mums house he asked me 2 move in. i didn't because i didn't know how he truly felt. he also told me he had a daughter and that he was worried that she might change things between us.
after a while the relationship fizzled out. he traveled and i later met someone else.
3 years on i am now single! me & my ex of 7 ys went out for a drink 2 month ago i went back 2 his for another drink and lets just say things could of gone a lot further than they did. he said we must spend the day 2gether next week. it didn't happen he had 2 work!
i hadn't heard from him since until 2 days ago, he texted me hello how u doin he also phoned my answerphone but didn't leave a message.
can you please help me, what do u think his intentions are? sex, does he really care for me but doesn't say, does he want to get back together or is he bored. help me! i can't work him out & can't understand why he won't tell me his true feelings but drops bomb shells. or should i forget him & move on.
It sounds like your ex is fond of you but is really bad at communicating. He did try to get you to move in once but things didn't quite work out. So he is pretty serious about how he feels about you, but this talking issue has to get worked on.
So really work on getting to be good friends with him so he feels he can TALK to you. Ask him lots of questions. I have advice on talking here -
Keep practicing. And practicing. And practicing. The more you talk, the more you can figure out what he feels and what he wants. The only person who knows these things is him. The only person who can find them out is you.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com