Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have a random jealousy problem with my boyfriend. If he talks about other girls or talks about talking to other girls, I'm upset. I know it is ridiculous and I'm working on it. Also he has several of his friends who see girls' numbers in his phone. I'm pretty sure he doesn't really ever text them or call them he has told me that too. He says he just has their numbers cuz he likes having peoples numbers and blah blah blah. I know I shouldn't make a big deal about this and me getting easily upset is ruining our relationship. And its not like my boyfriend is filling my head with the fact that I'm making a big deal, I know I am. But I can't stop.we've been dating for over two years and he's never made me believe that he was cheating on me and he's had plenty of opportunities to break it off if he wanted. I know he loves me. Please give me some advice on maybe reassuring myself and things to help me quit having random jealousy issues thank you!
Unfounded jealousy usually stems from low self esteem. Take a good look at yourself and figure out where your self esteem might need a boost. Perhaps engaging in some hobbies and working on your skills at things you enjoy would be a good start. No one wants to be involved with a very jealous person - it's not an attractive trait. Try to find where the root of your jealousy stems from within you.
-- from Jill
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