Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've been talking to this guy for about a month now.. Everything seemed to be going really well we were having a great time together and he told me he really likes me and he can see us going far in a relationship... Well I knew he had a 6month old son so I figured there would be some kind of baby mama drama... But I didnt know how soon him and his ex broke up.. He kinda sprung a lot of things on me within the past week that made things change a lot for me. In a way me and him are in the same boat because I left my ex 3 months ago but i'm over him. We both were in 3 year long relationships.. He openly admitted he isnt over her and she doesnt want ot give him visitation rights to his son... I feel like i'm more of his shoulder to cry on then the girl he wants to be with. He's told me that he wants to get to know me before we get into a relationship but that he can see us together... But lately when we hang out it's different.. I dont want him to kiss me or touch me because I know where his heart is.. and it's still with her. I really like this guy and he makes me really happy.. But i'm just unsure of what I should do.... What do you think I should do? I dont want to screw up something that could turn into something amazingl..
The only thing amazing is that you still want to have a relationship with this guy. He has a child...he shouldn't be thinking about having a relationship with anyone except his son. Does he support this kid, is he helping the baby mama with any of the work? If you feel that his heart is still with the baby mama then you need to step aside and give their relationship a chance to grow, because there's a child's future at stake. You'll find someone else who can devote all their attention to you. Don't you think you deserve that much? Good luck...
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com