I'm blank on what to say
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
So, this girl and i have been talking to each other for about a month, and when we don't see each other, we're almost always texting. and in those texts and when we see each other, its pretty obvious the two of are flirting. however, these past few days i've just been losing things to say like, we've talked so much for the past month, we're almost out of things to talk about. the both of us want to keep talking to each other, but we really have nothing to say. and i've already asked her on a date, planning on making it clear then that i have feelings for her. But, since both of us have lost things to talk about, i'm just not sure anymore. So, how can i like, starting getting things to talk about b/c we've both run dry on talking.
It's possible you two don't have a strong enough chemistry for a long term relationship. If you have run out of things to say already, then really think about whether you have enough compatibility and interests to make things work.
If you think you'd like to give it a chance, then I would do a little research first: read up on world news and local news for starters - that is always fertile ground for conversation. Go to the library and borrow some interesting books/music/movies that could lead to fun talks - there is a whole world of free options in a library! See if you have any sports interests in common. Start a hobby and find out if she has one, so you can talk about your different interests. Talk about your childhoods, your beliefs, and your hopes for your lives. Share your dreams...and if you don't have any yet, talk about how you'd like to figure out what your dreams are. Help her figure out her life's goals and dreams.
All of these things and more are great to discuss on dates! Maybe text less and save the good stuff for in-person chatting. But if you two have run your course together, then move on. You can't create chemistry if it's not there.
-- from Jill
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