How do I know if this is real?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Hi, I am currently in a long distance relationship. I met this guy, wonderful guy almost 1.5 months ago from Japan. We met on the internet. He is 29 and I am 35. I am not sure if he can tell if I am 6 yrs older than him or not because I changed my birth certificate. This guy came right away from Japan. He said he is a Heart Surgeon and he is only 29 yrs old. He told me that he wants to move to the US so bad because he is upset with Japan due to death of his whole family. He told me that he is solely the only person who receives all the will from his parents, so he is rich. When he came here, he stayed with me for almost 2 weeks. He does not stay until Christmas which a bit upsets me and he was telling me that he wished I was Pregnant, he wish to get married and have kids with me. I am so happy with this guy, everything is so perfect. I myself also want to have kids so bad. I never did but I know if I have kids my luck will change. I will have a better luck in my life. He also told me that he already set a side amount of money to help my parents to get a status in the US, you know like immigration paper works. I am a CEO and I have my own big house and I have my own BMW. To be honest, all my siblings told me that I am a very materialistic person but I am trying to change so many years and it seems like it's hard. To be honest, my past is not so great. I married a US citizen then I broke up with him after 10 years marriage because this millionaire wanted me so much. The millionaire is 55 yrs old and he just broke up with me 2 months ago. I am so upset because he told me that he never wanted to get married but as soon as he broke up with me, he called me from other country saying that he would take all his stuff out from my house and get married with this other girl he has dated. I really think I need help but I don't know what kind. Plus, I am hoping this Japanese guy who is a heart surgeon will marry me because I give him a deadline until next august to move here and marry me. We both seem are in the same page because he also told me that he wanted to have kids with me and live happily ever after. Sometimes, I doubt it that's why I am here asking questions. How do I know if this guy is real? how can I know that he is not lying? My sister met her husband on the net after 2 yrs long distance relationship they met and then 10 months later her hubby moved to US and they got married and now they have a beautiful daughter. I am so jealous with her because I am 35 and I am single. I feel like my relationship with this Japanese guy is too fast but what can I do? He cares so much about me which I've never got this kinda attention before. Do you think I have a big hope with this Japanese guy? Do you think if we get married next summer it will be too soon? he cares so much about me, he is very smart, and he calculates everything precisely. I feel that I have a strong connection with this guy but I am worry that I feel this because I am upset after my ex bf who is a millionaire broke up with me 2 months ago. Do you have any suggestions for me?
Thanks so much!
It's good that you have someone who is so interested in you. But you met him only two weeks after you broke up with the millionaire. And you have only known him for 1.5 months. Don't you think it is too soon to be thinking of marriage?
But you never know when love will strike and who will make you happy. My advice is to give this Japanese guy a chance but don't rush. If it is love, it will wait. Don't give in to that rebound feeling. And, like you say who knows if he is lying.
He seems to be pushing very hard after such a short time. I am suspicious like you are.
Best Wishes! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com