Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my bf and i have been together 2yrs and we are great together but i have been savin 4 a car de last while and he said to me ill pay half for early xmas presi i was like its ok ill manage and he kept on at me so i accepted it as he was drilling it into my head its your present the hole time. so i finally get the car on sat n drove it up to show him etc den we wnet to his mums show it off n then he wanted to drive it so that fine the next day i drove but he wanted t drive home n then mon i drove to work n he was over within 2 hrs looking for keys so i siad nothing. then we wnet to a friends on mon nite and he was out the door and at the car b4 me so then yest i asked will u b over everyday 4 the car as i cant even go home on my lunch cos u have taken it and i cant rely on u 4 lift. so tues i drove t work he was over hr later lookin for the keys and i said im saying sumtin as i havent once felt like it was my car since i drove it 3 times and he seemed to be planning on driving it thurs as well and he called me a selfish bitch and that it was only sitting outside work all day n got quite annoyed an still is i explained its not fair how u kept saying to me its yer presi n all dat. n then u havent once made me feel like the car was mine at all wen i cant get to drive it. so i said ill compromise with you as i know i wont get out on lunch mon,tues.thurs you can take it then but weds n fridays i want to be able to have it in work regardless if im using at 1pm on lunch its still my car as well and im paying for it. so i was called selfish cow and he wants his money back and to take him off the insurance as well so he cant drive it and he wont get in the car with me either. im so annoyed with him n he cant see my point of view with this been my first car to i was excited and like hes had plenty of cars so its not a novelty to him. so i got called nasty evil bitch and every name under the sun. he thinks he should drive it everyday that im in work. i no it sounds petty but its not me as hes saying hes sick of me and i wreck his head. so im like well if i do you know were de door is as im not putting up with the cold shoulder treatment and nasty swipes. your advice will be welcomed xxx
He is completely wrong and you are completely right!
Make an agreement with him that you will pay back his present in installment payments. Meanwhile take him off the insurance and don't let him drive the car.
He is being a big jerk about this. Maybe if he could be reasonable about not wanting your car so much a deal could be struck which would make both of you happy. But from what he has done so far I doubt it.
Can you borrow the money from someone else and just pay him off? That would be ideal.
Sorry you are involved in these hassles during the Holiday season.
Good luck! George
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