Should i be jealous?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and i don't know if i should be jealous or not. In the beginning we agreed that we wouldn't talk to anyone of the opposite sex. But over time he started to talk to girls and now he has a girl that is with him all the time and likes to joke around with him. He says he doesn't like her and said would stop talking to her but he never does. Should i be jealous or not?
My first advice is to repeal your rule about not talking to the opposite sex. It is perfectly normal to talk to the opposite sex. It is also a good thing to do because that is how you develop social skills.
If you drop the rule then you will no longer feel resentful that he is breaking an agreement.
Having said this, my feeling is that you should try to lose your feelings of jealousy. Part of this effort is for you to admit (if you want to) that the rule was unrealistic and that your jealousy is counterproductive.
Dealing with jealousy is extremely difficult. It would be a good idea for you to not encourage these feelings. You will be a much happier person in life if you reduce the impact of jealousy.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com