I want to make him jealous
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I like this guy so much, He feels he is all that, i call him up, i give him money by him stuff and theres nothing i do without his consent because i love him.
he did the worst of all the bad things he has been doing to me: he came to the town i was visited the people who have never been there for him and he did not even pity me to visit.
i want to teach him a lesson. i want make him seriously jealous coz i think he might be around for christmas.
Making someone deliberately jealous is never a good idea. This guy is treating you like dirt. Do you think trying to make him feel guilty is going to change the type of person he is? Even if he did have a guilt-reaction, that would be temporary. He might change how he acted for a day or two, but he would then go right back to acting his normal way. That's how people are, they have personalities and they have developed those personalities over many, many years. They don't just instantly 'change'.
Yes, you love him, but part of loving him is to NOT be a doormat. If you just let him use and abuse you, you are teaching him that people are there for him TO use, meaning you are enabling his personality. You are teaching him that it's OK to mistreat people. Which is NOT something you do for people you love.
You need to be a strong, happy, fun girlfriend that he wants to be with. If you don't have respect for yourself, it's extremely hard for him to have respect for you. So that needs to be your task right now.
So call him and tell him you missed his visit when he was in town - that you wonder why he didn't make the time to see you. Listen to whatever excuse he has. And then if he asks for money or gifts or things, just say that you have budgeted your money for other things right now - that since he didn't have time to see you, that you thought the relationship wasn't as important as you once believed it was.
A relationship takes TWO people who both make it work. He needs to do his share. If he isn't, then let him know that and see if he does. But you deserve someone who will love you, care for you and most of all RESPECT you. If this guy does not, he does not deserve your time and affection.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com