My stupid broken leg vs her independence
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I'm a traveling performer of the musical kind. During one of my travels I met another musician. Her and I got a long great. We started collaborating with each other. We are street performers. We also play venues clubs etc. At the time she had a boyfriend however we both had feelings for each other. We both decided it was best if we didn't persue anything at the time so we didn't. I ended up moving on to a new location to make a name for myself in another city. During this time about 6 months later she breaks up with her boyfriend, buys a van and starts living in it. For most conventional people van living would be a turn off however in my gypsy type of ways its completely normal, kinda sexy in fact. She started to save up money and told me she was going to make her way out in a few months. During this money saving time her 21st birthday came around. I went down for a vist. We hit it off cuddled held hand kissed and a little more. It was a bit of a release from all that was bottled up when she had a boyfriend.
She was the kind of person who would jump from boyfriend to boyfriend, sure her relationships would last quite a while but after she would end a relationship she hop right into a new one. when she broke up with her "at the time boyfriend" she asked me for avice cus she liked someone at the time. Because I was so far away it didnt bother me to much and was happy for her but she was'nt sure if she should jump into something to quick. I told her i thought she needed time to figure our who she was and to embrace being single for a while. She took my advice ~ End Side note
Anyways, She traveled across the country to experience traveling and she wanted to come see me. I was stoked. I was waiting over a year. I put together a band. Had everything going amazingly. Hell, I thought she'd probably end up joinin the band. So she arived. We hit it off again. We started fallin in love all over again. A week and a half into her arrival I ended up tryin to perform a drunken stunt and ended up breaking my leg. I was in the hospital for a few days and needed surgeory. After the hospital I was on crutches and needed a wheelchair . I'm about 3 weeks into my healing process. She stuck around for a while but decided to continue traveling. She didnt want to take me out while she was still in town. Even though I was feeling ok and the Dr said I needed to start getting out and about and refrain from just laying around all the time. Yeah I'm a lot of work right now cus i have to take a wheelchair and crutches with me everywhere i go.
She told me before she left call me anytime. Now she avoids my calls. I was and am kinda depressive because of my leg keeping me from being so mobile. I've called her but she started avoiding me. I hop on facebook and see she's online and I assume she see's when I come on and then she logs off. I'm not sure if she's avoiding me or not. I can understand me being a hassle and a lot of work and I know being crippled is kind of a turn off. But its temporary only 9 months!! and Im determined. I'm not sure. We just went from cloud nine to the bottom of the barel. I've been giving her, her space as well. I dont want to keep from her fun and traveling experience. I've talked to her for like 3 minutes at a time in like 3-5 day incriments. Im pretty envious of her right now, and she's out there doing whatever who knows.. I just need help getting my head straight. I just hope me being in the needy type of situation I was in while she was here was enough to scare her off for good.
Your turn ... be brutal with it if you have to be.
Thanks for reading this long ass thing too whoever you are.
Yeah, the answer is kind of brutal... she lost interest in you when you became crippled. She has a lifestyle that is contrary to being stuck in one place.
My advice is to contact her once a month until you are healed. Then tell her you are ready to see her again whenever she is in town.
This kind of girl is just not going to settle down and wait.
-- from George
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