he wants space
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 1 year. In the beginning of our relationship I was not really interested and he pursued me to the point of me finally falling inlove with him. After we made it official-as in boyfriend girlfriend titles(a few months after dating), I learned that he lied to me about his relationship he had with a girl, prior to knowing me. Basically he may have still been talking to this girl when we first met. If that were the case I would not care, but he never wanted to be completely honest and his story kept changing. Throughout the coure of our relationship, I became very insecure, snooping through his phone and email and finding things I didnt like(i.e., he would email random girls giving them his phone number). When confronted he would lie first and then tell me he did it when he was upset with me. The more little white lies he told the more my trust in him deminished. Yet he treated me very good otherwise. He felt as long as he never went through with anything(physically)with anyone, then it didnt matter(he says he never took those internet girls seriously). I tried to ignore these things and he promised he would not hide anything anymore. We had a few discussions about trust and he explained that it was my issue and I just worried too much. The most recent event was he broke it off with me because I called someone who called his phone. Although it was an innocent friendship, he lied to me about who this girl was(he says to avoid conflict he did not bring her up). So he has advised me to give him space, with no contact. He got so cold saying that i am immature. He says he is still taking his time to think it over. It has been almost a month. My question is do i wait for him or not? I feel somewhat responsible for disrespecting his privacy.
There seems to be something wrong with your relationship. He doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you. That is a terrible thing and destroys trust.
You have put up with a lot from him and now he has broken up with you.
My advice is to make it official and make the break from your end too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com