13 vs. 16
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
hi im a thirteen year old girl going to college this fall (im not boasting lying or joking) and since im homeschooled i haven't had many opportunities to make friends. i like this sixteen year old( i am NOT too young for this type of thing) and i know him and he knows me. i saw him once ot his church but i mainly see him 2-3 hours a week at our martial arts studio. hes a instructor im not.i only have a chance to talk to him like 10 mins a day. of course i know that to get him to like me we first have to be friends. i dont want him to think that im just showing off my "smartness" every time i smile at him. i just think it would be best for me to just flirt a tiny bit and just talk. but what subjects would interest him? like, what topics normally interest a 16 year old residient of las angeles california who came from korea at age 4-12? what should i do to be friends? i haven't had much experience making friends. should i flirt at first? should i make moves on him? i think he is getting kinda close to this other girl about his age and who was in the same cultural environment as him. she knows i like him and she might be defaming me in front of him so i need to get him fore she does. thank you so much. again what topics generaly interest a 16 year old? P.S. i was absolutely not kidding when i said i was going to college. i am taking a class right now just in case you dont believe me. btw im not attractive in looks im 10 pounds overwieght and i cant do a pushup. the other girl is sleek and a blackbelt and the guy is... really cool the perfect guy. I MUST GET HIM! HELP!
At 13 you shouldn't be expected to know much about boys and dating. You are right that becoming friends is the first step. Earn his interest by becoming the best martial artist that you can be. That is what he will respect. Lose that weight which is probably more than 10 pounds (I apologize if I'm wrong.)
Practice doing pushups at home and soon you will be able to do one and then two, etc.
Flirting is a good idea. Since you aren't a model type, use your intellect to give him compliments which he deserves. Keep the talk to martial arts at first and once you know him better branch out. Go to the RomanceClass.com website and review the answers I gave to the very last question before yours. I suggested MANY topics and how-to's to talk with another person.
Even if nothing works out with this guy, you will get good practice interacting with guys. Remember to smile a lot. And remember to smile a lot if he isn't interested in you... he may change his mind.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com