How do I get My Fiance' To admit he is still cheating on me?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my fiance' for 5yrs.,and we have been engaged for 1yr & 5mths, our wedding is next month. He has cheated on me before, and I took him back, he knows i dont trust him. He gets very upset when i ask to use his phone, he dont take me out like he use to, or spend as much time together in the past week or two, he doesnt call me like he use to. Last night we got into an argument, I was at his mama house and he called me and told me he will be right over when he got out of the shower because he had just got out of work. He comes to his mothers house we sit and chill, for about 4hrs, then we leave and he takes me home. I called him and we were on the phone and he told me to call him back in twenty minutes and dont forget thats what he said, so i calls him back he doesnt answer the phone, i called him about 8 times, so 45 mins goes by he clls me back, and says why you call so many times i said dont worry about it what in the hell you were doing that you couldnt answer your phone, he says he took another shower, which did not make sense to me cause you had just taken one four hours ago and thats very odd of him to do something like that. So i asked him did he just have sex with another women. Was i wrong for asking that?
Since he has cheated on you before, there is a reasonably good chance he will do it again. You have every right to keep a close eye on him and not give him chances to cheat.
On the other hand, if you are too suspicious of him it will turn him off. For example, it is not very likely that he was having sex with another woman during those 45 minutes. There was nothing wrong with asking him because you never know what the answer might be.
Unfortunately you will have to worry about him as long as you keep together.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com