What to do about boyfriend?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
*ME AND MY MAN HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ALMOST A YEAR AND A HALF. HE SWEPT ME OFF MY FEET iN THE BEGiNNiNG BUT SHORTLY AFTER i FELL FOR HiM i WAS ALREADY FACiNG PROBLEMS WiTH WOMEN HE HAS ALREADY BEEN WiTH...CLAiMiNG THEY'VE SLEPT WiTH HiM SiNCE WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER. i DiDNT CARE TOO MUCH BECAUSE WE WERE NOT SERiOUS BUT WHEN WE DiD DECiDE TO BE iN A RELATiONSHiP THE PROBLEMS CONTiNUED AND ONLY GOT WORSE. WE HAVE A CHiLD TOGETHER NOW AND LiVE TOGETHER BUT i JUST CANT HELP TO BE JEALOUS OVER EVERYTHiNG HE DOES. iTS ONLY BEEN ABOUT A MONTH SiNCE i FOUND OUT HE WAS iNVOLVED iN SEVERAL ONLiNE DATiNG SiTES AND WAS EVEN iN A RELATiONSHiP WiTH SOMEBODY HE'S NEVER MET ONLY CHATS WiTH. HE'S WENT AS FAR AS DENYiNG HiS OWN CHiLD AND TALKED ABOUT HAViN CHiLDREN WiTH DiFFERENT FEMALES LOCAL TO WHERE WE LiVE. i FEEL LiKE iM NOT WHERE HiS LOVE SEARCH ENDS AND EVENTUALLY HE'S GOING TO FiND SOMEBODY ONLY BECAUSE THEY LOOK BETTER OR WiLL PUT UP WiTH EVERYTHiNG HE DOES AND LEAVE ME, THE ONE WHO REALLY LOVES HiM AND CARES FOR HiM. iM SO iNSECURE BUT SO iN LOVE AND HE CLAiMS HE LOVES ME AND HE PROMiSED ME HE WOULD NEVER DO ME WRONG AGAiN BUT i'VE HEARD THAT SO MUCH i DON'T KNOW WHAT TO BELEiVE ANYMORE. i KNOW HE'S TRYiNG TO BE A BETTER MAN AND FOR ABOUT 2 WEEKS iTS BEEN GOOD BUT WHAT iF iT CONTiNUES?? SHOULD i STAY OR MOVE ON?? KEEP iN MiND THAT i HAVE BEEN DEALiNG WiTH THESE iSSUES FROM THE BEGiNNiNG UNTiL ABOUT 2 WEEKS AGO WHEN HE TOLD ME EVERYTHiNG iS OVER AND HE WANTS TO BE WiTH ME. i FEEL LiKE HE WANTS TO CHANGE BUT CANT AND iTS PUSHiNG ME AWAY, WHAT SHOULD i DO??
Well, you have had a year and a half of bad behavior from him.
Now he has promised two weeks ago that he would be good. But his past actions would suggest that he is a poor risk.
My advice is to tell him this is his last chance and if he blows it then it's over. My guess is that he won't change so you should be ready for what is coming.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com