how to make her notice me? or at least get closer to her?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Alright so i love this girl since i was in grade 8, now im in grade 10 but i still didnt get that girl, it all started when i told her in grade 8 that i liked her and she told me she only liked me as a friend, and i wanted to be more than friends, so i wanted toknow more about her, chilling with her at lunch and stuff, and im you can say the REAL funny guy, im the gy that makes everyone laugh, and you see the girl i like loves my jokes and she thinks im really funny, but then this and that happened and i think i was going either too fast, or was going blindly, so anyways she said she needed a break from me, like she didnt want to talk to me for a while, that happened in the middle of grade 9, and ths girl, i love her so much i just dont how to say this... I dream about that girl, i think of her day and night, she shows up in my dreams, shes my wallpaper, i pray to one day get this girl i know her so much you couldnt even say just give up go for someone else... like i love the way she smiles, laughs, acts, her qualities, even her bad ones! i like everything about her, for guys at school shes just cute, not really hot, but for me shes like #1 in my world. So anyways i wanted to get this girl but never knew how and i had this friend, my best friend and he gave me tips and everything, and when i started talking to idil again, it was just like before, and i really dont know what to do because i tried going out with other girls but i couldn't, its like i was missing something... So then i wanted to work-out, be smart in class, get a job and be ballin', i followed my best friend and her best friend's tips, and up until now, i dont have her yet but im putting all these tips into action, by the way we're now in grade 10 and its the end of it right now, so in about 2 months and a half we're in grade 11 her and me, and i think now is the time i get her, and i was wondering what i should do because if i try to get closer to her a little too much, i will end up being annoying, and if i don't i'll be too far away,and i dont wanna give up because she's everything to me, if all goes well i intend to marry her, and since im almost done school its gonna get harder from now on, and so far, a lot of other guys like her, and she's never really given any interest in me... So what do i do? i just work-out,get smarter in class and do all of those and thats it?? i need like a good plan to follow, any ideas on how to make her fall in love with me? i really don't know if i wrote my problem right but i don't know how else to say it, some of you might take it wrong, some of you will follow what im trying to say, and so we've been good friends but a bit of problems happened and its in the past now, about a few days ago we went to the library like 3 times just to study her and me, and i really really love her, more than anybody else, but she REALLY dosent feel that way about me, because what i need to tell you is that she thinks she will get some guy like Jeremih, or Marques Houston, some next level hot guy, when shes really not in anyone's list except a few guys that aren't really at that level.And for her im not really the type for her because she excpects better, So i need to know if there is any way i can make her realize that i want to be the guy for her, the one she can depend on, the one that will stick to her forever, the one that won't ever cheat on her, the REAL one, because she is really everything to me, but the first and second time i expressed my feelings it kinda went bad because the first one was when i was in grade 8 and i didn't know much back then, the second time, it was a retarted friend of mine writing in my place and it really wasen't good, at all... So i want to let her know the best feelings ive had for her all along, the one that wont ever live a whole day without telling her that i love you and that i always will, so i need some help...
You are doing the right things... hanging out with her, being funny, sitting with her at lunch. And also improving yourself by working out and trying harder in class.
My suggestion may work or it may not work at all. Why don't you print out the question you sent to me and give it to her. Delete the part about her not being on anyone's list... that would hurt her. You might change a word here or there if you like but use it very much as you wrote it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com