Flirting On the Net

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i am ok friends with this girl. i like her heaps. we like the same music n stuff lyk that. ive asked her out before n she said that she dusnt lyk me n she cant help the way i feel but she wanted to b friends. i guess i took that as a heaps mature answer, as she was only 14 at the time. im 16 and 6mnths and she is a month 15.

i guess we became closer as friends but we only seem to talk on the internet. i can never get thru on her mob or house numba. but on the net she writes kisses n hugs like this xxx000 n stuff like that n i dnt no if there signs or watever so if i start bein a bit more friendlier if u no wat i mean, but then she acts lyk all offended n then the next time shes normal agin. so i dnt no wat to do but i really like her n i really want to go out with her.

i just read wat i wrote bove n i babbled about alot of stuff that's not important. sorrry if i bored u but do u have anythingto say on the matter? it would be greatly appreciated. Advice
If she's 14, it can be very intimidating to think about dating. Many girls that age have all sorts of built up fantasies and prince charming sorts of dreams about what a "date should be". It might take some time before she realizes what the real ideal date really is - your best friend.

Until she realizes that, you need to be patient and be there for her. Don't rush her, you have plenty of time to work on this. Be her friend, listen to her, talk with her, be a shoulder. As she grows up a bit and gets more comfortable with this whole dating idea, she'll begin to realize that a boyfriend isn't like a statue that looks nice in a corner - he's a real person that is your partner in life. And when she realizes that, she'll realize that you are already in her life, have proven that you can be trusted and that you care for her.

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