one person. one jealously
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
ok. so ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months. but we've been seeing each other all in all for 8 months. we meet online. and everything was sweet. we broke up over christmas period for only 2 weeks before he wanted to see me again. he missed me. he wanted to fix things. anyway. so we're offically together now. we're saving to move into a place on the other side of the city for his work. we're moving by ourselves. but there is this girl. now my boyfriend had feelings for her for yrs. but nothing ever happened. ive talked to him about it. I love the girl. shes heaps nice and im good friends with her but everytime he mentions her name i get kind of jealous. he rarely sees her but texts her occaionally and talks to her online. she tells me everything he says to her and she says to him. n he tells me what he has said and what she said and all but i get this feeling sometimes that maybe he still kinda has feelings for her. he rarely sees the girl. but tonight is one of the nights he is socializing with her. without me. where as i see her weekly. I am very unwell with alot of internal issues at the moment with possibly surgery on the way. he lectures about being sick and getting my results and about what is best for me. he is worried. and doing what my body needs. i am at home this weekend due to the fact that he wants me to rest and relax this weekend and try and get better slowly! even though to my protesting!!! i care about him a great deal and for him to ask me to move in with him is a big deal. all his friends think it is amazing he has finally found someone! i think i am being silly. i know she would never get with him. even if we were not together. his not her type and i know he would not cheat on me and he doesnt have feelings for her anymore otherwise we would not be saving to move, but that does not stop my jealously.
am i being silly? or do i actually have something to be jealous about? can you please help me
The same situation may mean one thing in one case and not another.
The way you have explained makes it clear that you should trust him and look forward to moving in together. You also trust her and that helps.
Don't let those little nagging jealous feelings mess things up for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com