Can't get over jealousy/trust issues
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 15 months now. just lately we had this huge fight about how i don't trust him. I really don't trust him...at the beginning of our relationship he and my best friend were texting back forth about how they wanted to try to be togethre and he was saying things like 'i wish i could be with you' and so on. i broke up with him. we got back together a few weeks later cuz he said i was the one he really wanted. but then a few months later a group of us was in the hottub and he grabs my same friend and pulls her onto his lap and everything while completely ignoring me. things since then have gotten better but i cannot get those incidents out of my head! i keep bringing them up..and when he drinks i trust him even less! this lack of trust and jealousy ruined what we had. i don't like him begin around any girls,,especially this friend. and he says i am making him choose between me and his (girl) friend but i can't help it. i can't control my jealousy or learn to trust him...can i make things better even after 15 months?? like i know people have been through worse and did alright but my jealousy and lack of trust is too much :( would it be easier to just stay broken up and move on??
Trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship. If you are jealous of him all the time then there is no hope for you two. Otherwise he would have to change the way he behaves and you would have to change the way you react.
Neither of these changes are likely to happen.
You should just move on.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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