Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I started dating this guy Oct 2007 it was a long distance relationship 4 hours drive to his place, I managed to drive to his place November 2007. The problem was less contacts I was the one phoning him always and I told him once that Iím not happy with it and he promised to change but he didnít. Then 2008 Jan I met someone who I loved and very interested in him, we started dating and I dumped him. 2008 Oct I received an email from my ex telling me that he wants me back, he had issues to sort out that why he wasnít giving me the attention I needed. I had problems with my man and decided to leave him. Feb 2009 I went back to my ex and still its a long distance but at least now 2 hours drive to his place I visited him once and never slept together. I havenít slept with him and itís his choice, the reason why he didnít want to sleep with me was he wanted to tell me about his son 1st before we can start making love. I didnít know he has a son he just told me recently and he is 2 years old. I respect him for that. But the very same problem I experienced before he is doing it again we can spend two days without phoning each other. I donít know what to think is it the way he is or he scared of commitment? Can I bank on this relationship? Please help!
Some people are not "phone-people." Maybe that's the problem. Have you tried texting and emailing to make up for the missed phone calls?
But the concerns you raise are flags for a bigger problem, I think.
Visit him again and if he won't sleep with you my advice is to move on and let him go.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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