How do I get him back?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I love him so much. We were together for 1 year and 4 months. We lived together. We were together all the time. We had a baby together. The day after our daughter passed away, we split up. For almost 2 months we've been only friends and its getting hard. I don't want him to be with anybody else and I don't want to be with anybody else. I can't even look at guys the same anymore. He's the only man I want in my life. He means the world to me. How do I get him back? Its hard enough dealing with our daughter's passing, I can't live without him too.
I am sorry about the loss of your baby.
It is also sad that your ex has confused you with the baby's death. Whenever he sees or talks to you it reminds him of the loss. Only time can heal that problem. At least you are friends so not all hope is lost.
Give him time to grieve in his own way. Be there for him if he needs you... let him know that he can come to you whenever he wants to.
You are grieving too and that is natural. It will take months before you feel normal again. And the same goes for your ex too. Males often bottle up their feelings and some never let the feelings resolve themselves. If you can help him grieve together that would be good. But don't push him too hard since he may not be ready yet.
Getting him back is something you will have to be patient about. Perhaps in a month or two he will start to come back to himself again. That will be your opportunity.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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