Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Well I have a question, my ex and I been dating for 3 years, before our 4th years came up we broke up. I guess i was feeling too needy to her and she was stressing over work. After the break up, we sort of have a little argument about the break up ( there wasn't any violence involve or anything, just normal argument back and forward) on Christmas, i sent her family some presents and we communicated a bit, however,later on she say she can't do this (talking to me normally) because flashes back of me are starting to happened again and that she wanted more spaces from me. I give her more space and in January, I moved closed to her and we talk a bit. one day, i handed her my spare key to my apartment and asked her if I ever have to go back can she look over my apartment for me (just in case something happen during my time away) then she agreed. But then I always took this opportunity to see if you was okay from her sickness and see if she sick and so forward. That night we talk and she made me promise her that to be friend with her only and that we threw. I thought if I could be friend with her, then I would have better opportunity with her, so I told her I just moved and all that I'm currently looking for are some friend. So we laugh a bit. The day after that, I somehow causes her to remember me from the past, and then she felt uncomfortable and said that I was making her feel uncomfortable again. ( All i did was ask her, are you upset at me or something? she said that how i used to talk when I was with her). Then we had our own argument again and it wasn't a nice talk. We didn't name called each other or anything, she just repeatedly say move on and so forward. And that was the last time we spoke, do you think we still have a chance with each other???
She has made it very, very clear to you that she only wants to be a friend. You should respect her wishes or you will never have a chance.
Tell her you will try very hard to do what she wants but that you might make a mistake now and then. Apologize in advance and make sure you keep your promise to her with all of your strength.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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