how can i get her back ?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Ok here is my story.
There was one nice looking girl in my high school, she was that gorgeous that I was thinking that I never going to be able to be with her. So therefore she was the girl from my dreams. We went to same university but we never talk to each other, basically she was walk beside me and never says hi. Two months ago I walk into her office to buy insurance, I did that in purpose just to be able to talk to her ( she works as sales agent for insurance company). At that time i ask her out and she sad yes. Man i was the happiest man on the earth. We went for dinner in one good restaurant, after the dinner we went for movie and it was all cool. We made plans to go out for skating etc everything was just perfect. The problem come at that time i was braking up with my ex girlfriend. I was kind of feeling sorry for her and i was trying to drag on so it not going to be hard for her that is the only reason why i did not cat her off at all. She was a good a person and i respect her, she ask me to have dinner with her for New Year which i did. Any how when i was off the table she got my phone and saw the text sms that i have from my high school queen. My ex also work for the same insurance company, some how i think in purpose she talk to my high school queen ant told her that i was her boyfriend. Wow after that my queen text me and told me that she felt that Iím laying and all the plans what we made, i should to that with my girl not with her. She was mad at me. I tray explaining to her that my ex did that in purpose because she is jealous of her, she sad that she doesnít like to know. I told her that me and my ex is just history and there is nothing to worry about. I gave her some time to think and to calm down, i send her flowers ( she sad it was not necessary but she sad tnx) she also ask me not to treat her as my girlfriend ( because i also gave her a gift for Christmas) and i sad that i do that because she mean something to me. The last thing is i invite her to come for symphony with me, i got the tickets and all, she never respond to me and i havenít talk to her ever since. My question now is what shell i do??? Everything was just so perfect and suddenly everything crash. If she was some other girl i would care less, but she was the girl of my dreams and sad part of all is that she doesnít know how much i care about her. She doesnít trust me anymore but i wasnít laying at all i wasnít hiding anything, at our first date she didnít ask if i had girlfriend in fact we didnít had time to talk for that, we were talking for 3 or 4 hours all different things. We had i good time she is the one who sad that we shell go out the following weekend. Geeesss if i only can change some staff. What shell i do next. What shell i do in order to get her back at the place where we stop, before all of that chaos and drama what my ex made.
I presume you have broken up with your ex now.
Write this new girl a handwritten letter and explain why you did what you did. You must admit it was wrong for you to do what you did. Admit it to her and apologize.
You have already tried sending her flowers and that didn't work. Maybe you should invite her on an exotic weekend at a beach or spa or lake.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com