Is it worth hanging on & waitingVisitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I was wiv my ex about 4 months not long I no, but we really connected. It started with jus goin on dates once a week nice and slow. WHen we were together we were like silly teenagers constantly kissing, laughing and messing around. we used to laugh how we were like a couple of teenagers. We constantly rang and txed each all day although still we only meet up a couple of times a week. Over christmas time i seen a lot more of him because he works alot and was off at christmas then after christmas his work load became more intense and it went bak to once a week again. I felt like when he did have time off he still want to fussed about coming and seeing me and was often looking for excuses. To which i got fed up wiv & said we may aswell call it a day. He agreed. I tried to sort ing through it but alls he kept sayin was ..that im right and deserve better and that he wants to stay friends because we got on so well. I told him i would find that hard because i did really like him but he pleaded not to delte his number. Which puzzled me, why would he want me to keep his number>? I deleted anyway. We chat online on a social network for bit each nite but not proper conversations its more like flirting. He will leaveme daft messages or notes. I dont understand wot he wants. Has it always does it turned around from where it was me finishin it to me wanting him bak and him saying its the best thing and using the excuse of me derserving better and someone who can give me more time. He split with his ex about 8months ago and swears he is over her. They have a little girl together and he has him throughout the week in bits of spare time. The reason he uses is when ever he is with me alls he can think about is he could have had hislittle girl, although i would see him on days when he wouldnt have her anyway. He is a genuine decent lad who works hard and was always loving and careing when we were together, we never argued, bickered anything jus always cuddling fooling around, SO i dont understand how he can change and not want me back. He said that i was the best thing that happened tohim in a long time, but jus doesnt have the time to give to me i deserve? this to me doesnt seem a very good excuse. And its the fact he still trying to stay in contact through social networks? im so confused. I dont no wot to do for the best..whether to cut him off full stop, or whether to be his friend and hold out for him in hope he changes his mind. I also dont no how to act...do i act like im not bothered and gettin on with things which could make him jealous and want me bak or could go the other way and make him think that i may not have liked him that much cos im moving on qucikly...or do i show that i feel hurt and let down. i have a theory that all men are the same which too me is true but actually thought with this lad being so genuine that i my theory may be proven wrong. he said he would prove me wrong... he even txted me a full song lyrics to my fone which was soo sweet and woo'd me...then this ...i jus dont no wot to think
He is overcommitted and feels bad about not having time for you.
He still likes you since the friendship is strong. You might want to let it ride as a good friendship and hope you get back together again.
Could you see him while he has his little girl? You might bond with her and that would help you get him back.
My best wishes to you! George
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