I'm jealous but for good reason?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I started dating my boyfriend about a year ago. it started off dramatic without too many boundaries set and was one of his first 'serious' relationships. He became jealous that I was talking to my ex so we agreed that I would always let him know when I was with my ex. Anyway, he became really jealous one time when my ex brought over my cats that he was taking care of temporarily (and he knew about it)so my boyfriend wanted to take a 'cool off' period. At first he yelled at me and accused me of things but always kept in contact. We agreed that we would let each other know if we decided to move on and date to make it officially the end. He contacted me a few weeks after his 'cool off' period and we talked about getting back together. We agreed that honesty and better communication is what needed to be most important in the renewed relationship. I found out after we got back together that he dated a couple of girls, and went out partying and spending the night at another girls house. He denies anything happening with any of these girls but when I confronted one she said they 'cuddled' and he 'spent the night' and slept with her in her bed. So I asked him to fess up to everything that happened and asked to see his facebook and email-which I found numerous women he met online and was talking to and planned on meeting up with. This isn't the first time that this has happened-and most of the time his stories don't add up to the girls that he saw. He hasn't introduced me to ANY of his friends and says they are no longer important to him or good friends for him. So should I consider this second chance his last chance? Is the fact that he didn't tell me about these girls on his 'cool off' period relevant? He said he did it to try to get over me and is sorry and has apologized. Am I wrong to not forgive him and break it off?
He doesn't seem too trustworthy overall.
Forget what he did on the break, but if you do ask him questions he should tell you the truth.
Regarding the facebook and emails, if he is making plans to meet women while you are together then you should say goodbye to him. If he did this during the break then forget it.
Consider this chance his last chance but keep a close eye on him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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