Another Confusion, getting a bit messy.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Now I have sent a question before for if she would like me.
this is a girl from college, and things were really going well, signs were there, and she even went with me to a banquet. We share alot of chemistry, and just get along just fine. I was told that I would be crazy if I let her slip from my fingers.
Then, For some odd reason, I stopped. I became awkward (as though I was from high school). Not only that, but things got a bit more messy and confusing.
It was right before the Christmas break and a bunch of classmates went out, including her. When I arrived, she was with another guy. (Which I guess is okay. she does see guys, I just want to break the mold) . However, the thing that irked me was how he made comments behind her back, like how she was easy to get, and "how hot the blond that walked by is". When the girl that I like comes, he kisses her. So not only is she kissing this guy, but he's also a dirt bag.
But unfortunately, even though I do not believe in treating girls like that, I did a bone headed move too. At the end of the night when she came to give me a hard hug (which I was the only guy to receive one ) and I tell her to stop.
I even knew that was stupid, and mean. I was frustrated I guess, because I really care for her, and I can't stand her being hurt by a guy like that.
Then, we get back at school, since she was sick, I did another bone headed jerk move: She comes gives me a high five, and I literally tell her no, I don't want to get sick.
So not only do I feel like I'm struggling, but during the time gap from high school to college, I wanted to change myself from being too warm, and now I feel too cold. I do feel like a Jerk, and I really care for her still, and I have a hard time showing it(since I got hurt in the past) But mixed with a guy who will treat her like dirt, and my own mistakes, I do not know what to do. I want to apologize, but I now get nervous around her. Should I take that risk? What should I do?
Thanks for the help!
Of course you feel nervous around her with all this crap going on.
Meet with her and tell her you want to have a close conversation. Then, no matter how uncomfortable it is to you, explain to her what has been going on and why you have acted so weird. Ask her forgiveness and tell her you will be more normal in the future.
She is probably a sensible girl and will understand where you are coming from. If she is the kind of girl that is right for you, she will understand.
Good luck! George
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