my heart is breaking
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
im sooo lost and i need help right now.i really dont want to go "further" with this guy but hes realllly oressuring me into it. we talk about it all the time nd i always go along with it and say what we'll be doing and stuff, and then he says stuff like "wow i wanna come next to you right now", or "omfg i cant wait". i wrote you guys a million times b4 but its just getting worse all the time. the last one i sent you was the one titled "i need a miracle" (its really inportant to read that b4 answering because it explains everything im feeling about him). my very big mistake was always going along with it saying how good it would be nd how much ill luv it, but now.... i wish i didnt. because i built up expectations for this guy and i feel like if we somewhere and he wants to do it, im gonna have to cu if i dont i feel like he'll think i was all talk and just leave me. please help me on what i can do and still keep him. i really dont want to do something im not ready for, but he's already expecting it. and im scared if i dont itll be over for me. i wont know wat to do with myself if i lose him. this is nothing even close to one of those little crushes, this is really serious. if i lose him ill really die. how can i not do anything and still make him want to be with me? please be specific so i can really know wat to do, i wont hold ANYBODY responsible except my self if it doesnt work, i just need advice on this asap b4 its to late.
It is my opinion (as I said in your last message) that if you let him have his way, he will tire of you and leave you. He talks like a Romeo, acts like a Romeo and will leave you like a Romeo.
If you are so in love with him that you are willing to do what he wants and hope that he will stay with you... then go right ahead. But my advice is to tell him you are not going to sleep with him because you are not ready. Then you will find out what he really thinks of you. Tell him you don't want him to think you were leading him on but that you felt pressured.
Sorry this is unpleasant, but I really want you to know what I think.
I wish you the best of luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com