Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Im getting mixed signals from this guy in my class. Here are some situations....
1)He's always getting in my personal space in open lab, but I observe him and he seems to do that to others.
2)When ever I ignore him, he seems lost.
3)He bumps into me and playfully punches me if he walks by me and I don't say hi.
4)He asked me to go to a party...but kinda indirectly..cause i think it was a mass text...but he didn't text it to others in class?
5)He has my number, but that pattern of when he calls me is only when there is homework or exam comming up. So is he just using me to get a good grade?
6)I know he has other girls numbers in class...so why doesn't he study with them?...or is it cause they won't..and Im the sucker to take him in?
7)After a study group session (me, samantha, jim). It was a party of 3. I took jim and samantha for Ice cream twice on me....actually on my company card...so I explained that I wasn't treating it was on my boss. So a few days later.... I don't know how, but I ended up going to Subway with him...and I don't even remember him asking me? so I showed up late... he went and got in line cause he thought I wasn't going to show...which I did..he got his sandwich waited till I got my sandwich and he paid for it? he siad it was because of the ice cream that I got him?..so did he buy me the sandwich jus to return the gesture?...was that a date? Im confused?
8)the big thing that gets me is that he has my number, but yet the only time he calls is for homework or to study for exam?..if he was interested I would think he would call?
9)he smiles at me in class..and makes fun of me..but then again I the type of girl that is very approachable and friendly..so i think he's just comfortable? cause I smile all the time...at everyone..normally cause lately my life has been going well...all except this aspect of my life, because I am not good at this stuff.
so I just want to get some advise on how to interpret these situations? thank you so much if you could give me advise....I have read many articles and it drives me crazy trying to pick everything apart..sometimes I just want to sit him down and ask him straight out..what does it all mean!...but I don't..hahah..cause I don't want to mess anything up...because I think I starting to find him interesting. sorry to be so long.
You can be more direct but with a little subtelty. Say to him " we seem to get along nicely and I am developing feelings for you... how do you feel?"
This will get the story out in the open without you having to commit a whole lot. My guess, from what you have written above, is that he will be eager to start dating you. Give it a shot.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com