I wanted her to cheat, I set it up, Now I have to deal with it.
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
She always wondered what it would be like to be with a woman but was never attracted to any. After 17 years together she was attracted to a friend. After 5 years of flirting with her with my blessing and permission. she decided to make a move, and as it turned out her friend felt exactly the same way as her. I even helped her make the plans for thier "date". I knew that I would not know exactly how I would feel if it happened. I went into this with my eyes open. Well she had a very good time on her date, and was able to have her fantacy with no guilt and was excited to tell me all about it. Even thanking me for Helping her. thats when Jealousy kicked in, and by confronting it head on and talking about that night over and over no matter how much it hurt me it became a normal part of our relationship. I beat Jealousy. She is interested in repeating the "date" again in the future. She will not do it again without my complete permission. now my question:
Is it fair for me to help her to act on her fantacy, opening up a whole new world for her to explore, and then take it away?
You have opened the door for her and she has gone out and enjoyed.
There is no reasonable way for you the re-shut the door because she will always be thinking about it.
Don't try to take it away from her unless you want to lose her.
Good luck! George
p.s. if it bothers you, look in the yellow pages for couples counseling.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com