Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have been engaged for 7 months and my wedding is in 6 months. I just found out that my fiance has been talking to 2 girls from his past, which are both married. He tried to deny but the cell phone bill gave proof. He doesn't want me to call off the wedding and he says that he loves me. He apologized for his actions and says it will not happen again. I have been with him for 11 yrs and I do love him. I am very confused, angry, and hurt. I don't know if I can ever trust him. I no longer feel excited about marriage. What if it happens again. He does have a bad track record. What do you think I should do?
Sorry you are in this situation, it is a tough one to deal with. Since you are not sure you can trust him again and since you are not excited about the marriage, you have two good reasons to cancel or postpone the wedding indefinitely.
But first, consider going to a professional counselor with your fiance and talk out the problem with a neutral person. You have spent 11 years together and it is worth the effort.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com