Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hello, I wrote to you ages ago about me wanting to get back with my ex and asking advice about it. You've helped me a lot but nothing happened yet. Well I am not bothered about it because we are in summer holidays and we barely see each other and he works on top of that. But I need help about something important. M I IN LOVE??? :| Okay the thing is we broke up in January and we are nearly in September now and I think about him everyday which is weird. Everyday there has to be something that is linked to him somehow. I wake up every morning with him being the first person that comes to my mind. It's been nearly 8 months since we broke up then why am I still thinking about him? Nothing like that happened to me before when me and my other exs broke up. At first I thought it is a usual thing but then it's been such a long time now and the feeling is still here. I still remember every single second we spent together. No matter how much attractive a guy is, I am not bothered at all. I might feel something for a little while then I am back to where I was which is thinking about him. It is strange. The thing is I don't regret going out with him because those moments were the best thing ever. I need to know whether I am in love :| I still got all his messages on my phone. Why can't I delete them? I keep reading them over and over again. This might sounds crazy I know. I still got all the pictures we took together on my laptop and again I can't seem to be able to delete them. Oh my god help me...I need to know :D Thank you
You definitely still love him... perhaps mixed with some obsession.
Destroy all evidence of his existence. When thoughts of him enter your mind have anothere topic ready to take him out of your mind. Think of a nice vacation (without him), a new luxury car (without him). Train your brain not to think of him.
Remind yourself that he doesn't care for you and therefor doesn't deserve you.
Think of the future and how he will not be in it, get comfortable with the thought.
On the other hand, you can continue as you are and still love him seven years from now.
A better idea is to continue seeing other guys until you find the right one.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com