I dont know what I can do or what to even think!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I am in a unique situation, my girlfriend and I have been going out for five months now. She has two amazing kids and had just gotten divorced before we started going out. She still wants to have a good friend like relationship with her EX because of her kids. That is not the problem though. We fell in love pretty fast. She started to get upset and confused because she started doubting that she ever loved her kids father. She says she has never felt the way she does towards me with anyone else. She says that other than her kids births I am the best thing that ever happened to her. We have been through alot in the five months that we have been together and I have supported her every step of the way. Now that Im ranting on to the real question.
I know my girlfriend loves me. She has had her heart broken in the past and is scared of getting it broken again. This is my first relationship and she is afraid that I am not actually in love with her and that I am just afraid of losing her because she is my first girlfriend. She is afraid that I dont know what love is and that I am going to realize I dont love her one day and break her heart. I dont know what I can do to ease this fear she has. I really do love her, and my actions show that I do everyday. I would do anything for her. I love her so much and I dont want her to have doubts that I do. What can I do to help ease her fears?
Tell her you understand why she is worried. Tell her that time will prove that you are the right person for her.
You have only been going out with her for five months and that is not long enough for a relationship to truly solidify. Keep building and strengthening your relationship and soon her fears will begin to melt away.
Show her that her trust in you is well placed as that is very important.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com