what's the best way to make him forget about his ex
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I met my ex october 2007 we dated til december. I fell for him pretty hard because he is different from most guys I've dated. Im 18 he's 26. But anyways he broke up with me supposedly bc of drama. But later I found out that when his ex from four years ago(which he never got over her) found out about me she made him believe she was hurt bc he found someone else.so she made him believe that she would get back with him so he left me. Well now its august and she never got back with him. I struggled to forget about him I stayed away from his family n friends and now that im back around his friends and family he's starts liking me again. I know I still like him and I would love to be with him but everytime were doing good and I forget about his ex something comes up. For example his password for his laptop is her name and he still has letters they wrote back n forth n pics FROM 4 YRS AGO!!!(he doesn't know that though) He says he wants to be with me but he wants to be sure that he won't hurt me like last time and that he doesn't get hurt. I want to tell him sooo bad to get rid of all of that stuff he has but I feel like it would be wrong. He told his sis in law that I've changed from back then bc I cook for him and wash his clothes when im over at their house. That's why he's falling for me. Another thing is that he's soooo jealous and insecure. He's always on my butt about where im going and why did I take so long. Its bc of his ex cheating on him and breaking his heart why he's like that. It hurts bc he's such a good guy and I know I would never hurt him but even though I really like him I don't wanna stick around if I have to be scared he's gonna run back to his ex. They don't talk as much and if she calls hell talk to her for like a minute. The last thing is that im supposed to move back to miami next weekend but he's begging me to stay. I told him he has to show me he really wants me to stay but its a short amount of time. I feel like if I stay and he goes back to his ex ill be bad off but if I stay and we work out then good. So what would u do? And how do I win his heart and get him to forget about her? And do u believe the saying "If they want 2 leave set them free if they come back they're yours for good"
I wouldn't go to Miami.
Tell him you are staying only because you trust him not to go back to his ex. If he responds satisfactorily then it's worth the risk. He is begging you not to go so that should be enough to show you he cares.
You already have won his heart, just tell him that you would feel more comfortable if he would not have so many reminders of her. Ask him to delete any things he has reminding him of her. He should be willing since he cares about you so much.
No I don't believe that saying because I hear of too many cases where couples break up several times and then break up for good.
Good luck! George
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