Does she like me
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Question for George,
I am the shy guy 34 that has been writing in about the extremely, extremely shy woman 29 since late last year. I ran into her again, and this time she seemed very anxious, and also a little down. We talked for a few minutes, and she continued to turn her head away from me when we were talking. Almost like she has to catch her breath when we are talking. She has continued waving at me over the last few months, and even waved at me while we were walking toward one another the other day before we talked. She is extremely shy, and I just cannot tell if she likes me or not. She almost seems scared of me in a way. I basically had to get the conversation going, and she really did not say much to me. She seems to also have lost some interest in an activity that I thought she enjoyed. She just seemed really down the other day, but nonetheless stopped and talked to me for a few minutes. I did not push going out again, however as the conversation ended I did say that I would give her a call sometime, and we would go out for dinner. She just said OK, as she was walking away toward her car. Remember back about 6 months ago I apologized for stressing her out when we went out, and she said we were cool. And since then she does wave at me when she sees me, and I also wave at her. But that is it. I am so madly in love with her. When she stood there in front of me the other day, she looked so sexy, and smelled so good. My heart is breaking because she will not tell me how she feels. She has never expressed how she feels. And it hurts so hard not to know. Do I need to figure it out on my own? By her not telling me how she feels, what is that saying? Is she afraid to tell me her feelings? Could she sence that I still like her, and that I am in love with her? Is this why she turns her head away? All I know is that when we part ways I feel totally alone and empty also hurt that she acts so shy and embarassed around me. She seems afraid of having a boyfriend, or having someone to care about her. Why does she push people away? This all sounds so silly coming from someone my age, but I love her, and she is always on my mind. I dont know where to go. I told her in Nov 2006 how I felt and it got me nothing but silence, and being ignored for a year only to find out that she does not have a problem with me in Nov 2007 a year later! Her father is a person who talks to no one,and she made it a point to tell me that when we first met. She also said that her father bugs her, and I said to her "DO I REMIND YOU OF YOUR FATHER", and she replied "YES". Her father and her mother knows me and my family, I have known her and them all my life, and I want to have something with her. I have to break through this hellish silence, and shyness, and find a way to get through to her. It makes me feel not good enough, and it get me down. Any advice will be appreciated. Thank You
The good news is that she said ok when you said you would call her for dinner.
You should call her soon and make plans. If you can find a nice place where they have outdoor seating, that would be great.
Her father sounds like a nut case and may help explain why she is so shy. Also, keep in mind that a woman her age who is not sexually active may possibly be suffering from an early age bad experience such as molestation.
Since you love her, you will find a way to make things work with her unless you are really unlucky. She is interested in you and waves and talks with you.
One possibility is to ask her to go to church with you each week. This might backfire so go very slow with this idea.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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