Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
ok, so i donít know what is wrong with me but iíve been trying to figure out this guy for quite some time now and iím real lost, so any opinion would help me out. We met in April and we have seen each other a ton since then. We are both really shy so we never really get in touch to hang out, but we always run into each other and end up spending a lot of time together while weíre out. He sleeps over a ton, but we have never hooked up, we usually just cuddle. Then in the morning he will stay and lay and talk with me for about 2-3 hours, every time. I have also woken up on many occasions to him with his arms around me and his head next to mine. He is always trying to make me laugh, and trying to touch me in some way, in public and private, he will always brush my hand or hold my chin. We have millions of inside jokes too. The only thing is so many girls like him and are always pulling him away from me in public.They are always flirting with him, and i think that is what creates such a complex in my mind, if he has so many girls loving him constantly, hitting on him, being flirty with him, then why would he want me? Yet he always seems to come back to me after he talks to whoever has pulled him away, or try to find where im at so he can meet up with me again, and go home with me, just to sleep because we never hook up. He confuses me so bad, because we never talk about us, we are both shy, and the thought of bringing up a relationship talk is so scary. Every time we are together it is like a relationship though. My friends say they always see him staring at me before i even notice he is around. I just do not know what to do or what to think, help? :)
You are right, this is puzzling.
Perhaps the main problem is the shyness. Ask him if he feels comfortable increasing your physical closeness. Or simply become more passionate with him.
Your relationship sounds ideal except for the lack of intimacy. You don't need to expect intercoure right away, but you should be getting closer.
On the other hand, if you are both happy with the way things are then don't do anything. Perhaps he is attracted to you because you don't demand more than cuddling. Does he get an erection when you are cuddling? If not, he may be very shy or possibly gay.
It's up to you. Let things ride if you want. Otherwise it's up to you to make thing move along.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com