Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
one day i was over my girls house with some friends it was all good until one of my friends gets a call from (bob) asking if he could come over she said she didnt care and then yeah ,i got mad knowing that she knew i couldnt see him because me and (bob) dont get along and still said he could, when he got there i tried to keep cool, they where all talking i just stayed out of it so i wouldnt cause any comotion, but i couldnt take anymore after (bob) asked her that she should got out with him somewhere and with somefriends i got up to leave the room and then he saw me and said ohh yeah and your boyfriend to, i left the room but she still stayed over ther with him and my friends then she came and asked me if i was mad i said no and then said (go talk to bob like you said just because i dont like him that mean youll wont talk to him) as she had told me that before thats why i had left the room so i wouldnt have to see it, she then got mad and did just that, what got to me is that my girl gets jealous when i talk to girls and then give me the silent treat ment and then i go to her to cheer her up let her know shes the only one for me but when she talk to guys she tells me to get over it and i should be jealous that i should trust her , which i do but not with the guys that try to get with her she tells me that i dont know that which its pretty obvious but she just cant see it in other words i feel like she can only be jealous and get mad at me because if i do it she just gets mad back at me and then i go and appologize for something i dont want to just to make everything better what should i do
You have been avoiding confrontation.
Have a gentle talk with your GF and come to an agreement that you can both talk to the opposite sex without a lot of jealousy coming out. Tell her it isn't fair for her to get jealous but not allow you to get jealous. The better solution is for neither to get jealous.
This won't be easy to accomplish, but talking about it in a calm voice will help.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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