Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Ok well i have a very big problem and i couldnt find a catagory for it. i have a girlfriend that lives with me. we have a two year old son together and we have been together for about 6 years. this is my problem.... she has a sister. i have known her sister for the same amount of time and i guess you could say we are friends. well ever since we all graduated a few years back and now that me and my girlfriend have moved closer to hr sister we have been hanging out more often. i have been able to get to know her better and she seems like a fun person to be around and i cant lie but she is pretty good looking. well im confused because i feel like i have started to grow feelings for her and i dont want to have feelings for her but at the same time i do. i sometimes find myself just randomly daydreaming about her for a few moments then i catch myself and stop. sometimes i feel like she might have started to grow some feelings for me but im afraid im just misreading her signs. its driving me insane because when i really sit down and think about it i can see myself with her sister and i know its wrong to think that i feel like shes the forbidden fruit and off limits since i am dating her sister and have a son with her. i feel like i want to know if my girlfriends sister feels the same way but im scared and sometimes i think she is to but then again i might just be misreading her signs. i feel so bad for daydreaming and lying awake some nights thinking about my girlfriends sister and its driving me insane im torn in two its like half of me says go find out if she likes you and if yes get with her but on the other hand its like no dont i just want this feeling to go away but sometimes i dont what should i do??
It's not unusual to become attracted to a close friend or a girlfriend's friend or a sister in this case.
Once you realize it's normal, that will make it easier for you to ignore. A lot of people become attracted to "off-limits" people and everyone just has to learn to deal with it.
You are doing the best you can under the circumstances. Try not to daydream about her and after some time you may keep it under control.
Maybe you should confess this to your mother or father and get some family advice which will help you. By sharing your feelings and getting them out in the open, they are more likely to go away.
Yes, maybe she likes you but that doesn't change matters. Stay away from her emotionally if you possibly can. Do it for your son.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com