She left me after 2 years
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
im 17, a junior in high school, and my girlfriend just broke up with me. She is almost 17 also and we had been going out almost 2 years. She gave me the reason of i want to view high school from a different perspective and not be attached to one person. The problem is i didnt do anything and she even said that. I guess thats what hurts the most because i did everything this wanted to do and gave her just about everything because i loved her with all my heart.
Right now im really struggling with this and i need some advice. I dont know if its over another guy. She says its not, but i think it is and shes not telling me. I just need some advice and your point of view. So if you could respond to me ASAP i would really appreciate that. thank you.
It's very common for kids in high school to want to date a variety of people. Dating is supposed to be about seeing how well you fit with different people, what works what doesn't work. So if you only date one person the entire time you're not really learning much about yourself. It may very well be that you guys had sort of fallen into a slump, so it's not that you were doing anything wrong, it's just that nothing new and interesting was happening, while around here were all sorts of new and interesting things to try.
I would stay her friend and keep talking to her. Even if she does become fond of another guy, it could just be a 'new interest' sort of like trying a new flavor of ice cream to see what it's like. It's not that the old flavor is bad, but you want to try something new. So maybe once she gets that out of her system and realizes that "new does not mean better" she'll come back to you. Also I would really think seriously about the past 6 months and the time you spent together. Were you both always happy? Always having fun? If not why not? I'm not saying that life is about 100% joy and pleasure. But if most of the time you just sat and watched TV, while that might have been fine for you, she might have wanted to go out walking the beach and going to movies and doing intersting things.
So if you can start being her friend and actively doing fun things with her, she might realize that what she is seeking, she can have with you.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com