Getting Back my Ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I dated this guy for a year on and off. I still love him with my whole heart but I went ahead and dated other people because he was dating my best friend.
Well, about a couple of days ago he called me and asked me to come talk to him, and he needed a favor. I did it just so i could see him and confront him about the past. Instead of confronting him i just felt totally in love with him and butterflies all over again. Well, he called me and told me that night that he has missed me so much and wants to start over. I told him that we needed to start out as friends then we will work out better. He is back with his girlfriend because i said not yet.
Well, i talked to his best friend today and he said that my ex still loves me and told him that he wishes he could take it all back. The friend told me that i should give my ex this letter i wrote him that told him that i regret telling him that we need to wait. and that i regret not telling him how i felt about him all a long. and that i did love him. What should i do.
Wait, you told him you wanted to be friends! Friends are the KEY to any great relationship! And he said "that isn't good enough for me" and went off with another girl? I don't think you're the one that needed to apologize there, he is! Being a boyfriend-girlfriend is about being a boyFRIEND and girlFRIEND. If that friendship base isn't established, the relationship will not work. So you were saying "I really want to make sure our friendship is solid" and he was saying "sorry sweetie no nookie no careie".
He really needs to get his priorities straight. One of the hardest things to find in the world is a relationship where you can really talk, get along, be best friends to each other. If he doesn't think that's worth working on, he better learn more about relationships soon. Otherwise he's going to be sad when his girlfriends keep breaking up with him.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com